Sunday, May 8, 2011

Different take than most...

Today is Mother's Day.  To put it lightly I have come to hate Mother's day.  I hate the way it makes me feel.  From the second a child wakes me up in the morning to the second the last child falls asleep at night, I feel entitled, selfish, and bratty.  I have the feeling like I want to check out.  I feel like I shouldn't have to raise a tiny finger to do anything today.  I should not have to pick up one dish and put it away.  I should not have to get out of bed until I am good and ready.  I should not have to help one person but myself all day!  All ridiculous and horrible things to feel.

Mother's Day always falls on a Sunday.  Because of my beliefs, we do not spend money on Sunday, we don't go out to eat or play sports or exercise.  We honor the Sabbath and have a day of rest and a day to worship and not go about our usual daily activities.  It is usually one of my favorite days, but every year on the 2nd Sunday of the month of May I come to hate it.  I still have to get my kids ready for church, and we all know how particular I am about appearances, so I don't just let my husband have free reign with that.  This also means, we have to have dinner at home, but even if my husband makes it and cleans it up, it still makes the house that much dirtier and the kitchen is never sparkly when he is done as hard as he tries.

I liked Mother's Day so much better when I could just focus on other mothers and my mother.  Now that I am a mother I feel forced to be selfish and with all the constant ads on the radio and TV about how "Mother's Day is coming and you need to give back to your wife....blah blah blah," it just drills it in more.  I want to just be okay with getting up with the kids and making dinner just like every other Sunday.

My perfect Mother's Day would be to sleep in, go for a walk with my favorite music, get ready, go shopping, have a salad with my favorite book at my favorite restaurant, shop some more, come home to a spotless home, go out to dinner with my kids and my best friend (husband), come home put the kids to bed, watch an old movie, get a massage and go to bed.  Now is that selfish or what???  I hate feeling like I deserve that.  Even if I do I don't think it is okay to feel it.  You come to expect it too.

I had a discussion with the best friend this morning and we concluded that starting in 2012 we will celebrate Mother's Day on the Saturday before.  This way I can wake up on Mother's Day Sunday and focus on my mother's and the other mothers around me who have influenced my life and are such great examples to me and have a completely selfless Mother's Day.

I need to heed this quote from Audrey every 2nd Sunday in the month of May.

"It's that wonderful old-fashioned idea that others come first and you come second. This was the whole ethic by which I was brought up. Others matter more than you do, so 'don't fuss, dear; get on with it'."  Audrey Hepburn

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Isn't the grass always greener! I absolutely love the honesty of this post. I will have to show it to my co-workers who are obsessed with Mormon Mom Blogs and honestly think everyday is a good day for a Mormon Blogging Mom :)

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