Kind words, Judging, and Contentment

I have been thinking a lot lately about how I am not a very nice person.  I am totally nice to the people I like but the people I struggle with,  Watch Out!  Luckily I really do like most of the people I know.  I have been thinking how I could NEVER picture Audrey talking badly about someone.  I saw one interview of her on YouTube and she was asked about something she could have easily said something unkind about it.  She chose not to and only gave them the benefit of the doubt and never said anything negative.  The person interviewing her was such a jerk and kept interrupting her. Click here.   (See how I just was negative about the guy interviewing her?)

She once said,  "You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him."  I completely agree.  You could never feel bad feelings toward Audrey because she only tried to be a wonderful, kind, lovely person.  I need to remember that more.  I need to speak kindly of others.  Everyone in the world is in different circumstances and different levels of learning and we need to love everyone like Heavenly Father loves them.   We may not love some of the things they do, but that is not our concern.  It only causes more stress to fuss about it.

Audrey also tried not to judge people.  She had a couple bad marriages.  She was hurt both times.  I think a lot of her life she was confused that things didn't work out for her.  She tried really hard, I think.  She said, "If I get married, I want to be very married."  I love that and I think she tried to do that.  She had to make money to support her family and I think it is hard to have a career and be very married at the same time.  Especially a career that sends you to another country for months at a time.  Even through all of that she did not judge.  After one of her marriages she said, "Your heart just breaks, that's all. But you can't judge, or point fingers. You just have to be lucky enough to find someone who appreciates you."

Thomas S Monson said, "Choose your Love and Love your Choice."  I think so often people think, "Maybe I made a mistake." or "he does this and this and he needs to change," or "I love someone else."  We need to heed that quote.  This is who and what you chose so love it and be happy and content with it.  Don't question it and don't go back on the choice you made. 

So lets all work on speaking highly of others, not judging, and choosing your love and loving that choice.  Imagine how different our world would be if we all followed the simple 10 commandments.  There are thousands of things we need to do beyond that but just start out with those simple things and you can go far.  Don't know what they are?  Statistics show most Christians can't name the 10 commandments and most only know three off the top of their head.